MESSAGE TO MY TEENAGER ~ (author unknown)
Found this and it’s really good and sound advice and most definitely worth a post and share! Many of the items on this list is common sense and even though it’s common sense, sometimes during those teenage years, with hormones raging, common sense, at least for MY teenager, just goes out the door! As a result, even though it’s stating the obvious, I have found myself sharing a lot, if not all, of this list of advice with my own teenager.
With MY teenager, #3 to him means, “let’s play let’s make a deal!” because in his mind, he believes that he can convince me to change my mind after I told him NO in every possible circumstance. I give him points for being persistent that’s for sure! But, however persistent he may be, I am more stubborn and more adamant in my stance than he can ever be and I can dig in my heels with the best of them!!
I’m not too worried about #5 – my teenager has told me consistently over the years that he can’t stand taking the legal drugs that keeps him healthy so it makes no sense to him to take the illegal drugs…EVER!
#7 we have discussed at length. In our house, it’s not called yelling…we call it, “mom is encouraging him loudly!” and usually it’s because my teenager has chosen to forget to do something I asked or his brain was in his butt that day!
#12 my teenager and I just had a LONG talk about recently…especially since my nephew, his cousin, was seriously injured in a car accident this summer right before school started and the car accident involved a drunk driver! We are fortunate that my nephew was the least injured (with 2 broken legs, an arm broken in 4 places, and 2 broken wrists) in the car and and that even though he didn’t have a seatbelt on, he is so lucky to be alive! My teenager knows that no matter the hour, if he finds himself too drunk to drive home or stuck without a ride home because his ride is too drunk to drive, he can call me because I would prefer him to be in one piece and A-L-I-V-E!
The one that cracked me up the most was #19. One thing my teenager knows how to do is budget. Ever since he was a little boy, he has been really tight with his money. He has always been my little “Ebbie” (Ebeneezer Scrooge) and the joke used to be that he was so tight with his money, he squeaked! The funny thing is, this past summer, he got his first job where he got paid only once a month and his budgeting skills came into play. And he soon realized that spending his own money was not quite the same as spending mommy’s money. No matter the time of month, mommy always had money for him for his outings with his friends and such was not the case with his own money if he didn’t budget correctly. It was really interesting to see how he managed to make his money last for the month but somehow he did.
Ultimately, as his mom, all I want for my teenager is for him to be better than me….in every possible way.
MESSAGE TO MY TEENAGER ~ (author unknown)
1. Yes, your freshman AND Sophomore years count towards your GPA for college entrance. Screw it up and you’ll work for crap wages your whole life.
2. No means NO. In every possible circumstance.
3. Join every sport, every club, every after school activity no matter what the cost. It’s cheaper than bail.
4. Repeat after me: I am never in that much of a hurry…I am never in that much of a hurry. Now say that every time you get behind the wheel. It will save your life and that of your best friend in the seat next to you.
5. Don’t do drugs or drink – it is so not worth the trouble.
6. Don’t get a credit card. You earn it or you live without it.
7. If I yell at you, it’s because I love you. And also, because you pissed me off. To avoid the latter, don’t be an idiot. And don’t disappoint me. More importantly, yourself.
8. Make a vivid picture inside your head of every great moment of your childhood. You’ll need those to get through adulthood.
9. Make snow angels as often as possible. Make a bucket list. Check it off!
10. Stand up for those who can’t stand up for themselves.
11. Be always benevolent. Yes, that’s a word. Look it up.
12. Call me for a ride even if you are so drunk you barely know my number. I’ll probably be mad for a while but I’ll respect you for calling and I won’t kill you. Riding with someone who is drinking will. (PS – remember #5?)
13. Be a leader, not a follower. Unless you are following the kid with the highest GPA and (s)he is going to a study group, then by all means be a follower!
14. Love your siblings, even when you don’t like them. Some day you will be trying to get them to take care of me in my old age. If they are mad at you, you are stuck with me.
15. I’ve been there, done that on more things than you can imagine. I’m not stupid and I know what you are doing. I was once you (times ten).
16. Work hard at everything you do. Anything worth doing is worth doing well.
17. Cover it. (Enough said.)
18. When I tell you to clean your room, do not point at my messy room and raise your eyebrows. I’m trying to raise you to be better than me.
19. Learn to type; to budget; to spell correctly and to pray. All are equally important.
20. Never be sedentary. Someday soon you will no longer be able to move like that. Enjoy it.